Friend-Chain***

When one is born, your mom becomes your first best friend then you grow away from breastfeeding and find a new best friend which could be a sibling, relative or your neighbour. Then the number grows as you mingle with strangers in primary school, high school and if you are lucky university too. You loose many on the way but the real ones always stay. You try to find your true self with these friends thats why many stray during this process, some become thieves, sturbon and disobedient while others become jovial and good clever kids. Children should be let to grow out of childhood lest it is bound to haunt them at a point in life and to grow out of childhoods means growing it with fellow kids who are your age-mates and friends.

FWB

Friends. Best Friends. Best Friends Forever. Friends With Benefits. Our culture is evolving and as it does so does the meaning of who a friend is become unclear. We all know that a friend is not a betrothed companion though intimate, but FWB (friends with benefits) involves conjugal rights, so the soul purpose of friendship disappears in this case. But does it really? since both enjoy the company of each other but just in a different way or rather a pleasant way. There is a belief gaining fast growing fame that says BFFs always make the perfect family. I experience dissonance with the the belief for I totally disagree with it. And just to be clear the BFFs have to be of opposite sexes. Best Friends are usually of the same sex, but choosing a best friend is not a good thing. You may consider someone to be your best friend but he/ she considers another, or you may choose a best friend and hurt another who thought he/ she was your best friend. This leaves us with just Friends. When a girls says we are "just friends" what she means is, there is a chemistry cultivating between her and the guy but she doesn't want to admit. The true meaning of who a friend is has been biased.

Feuds strengthen bonds

If you've never disagreed on anything with your friend, then that is not friendship but hypocrisy. Feuds strengthen bonds and bonds never break easily. Friends never having feuds simply means they are not comfortable in each others presence and so they are not free to share their most personal/intimate experiences. I remember once getting into a fist-fight with a member of my class. I threw the first punch which tore his lower lip and it immediately bled. He was infuriated and his eyes reddened, he clenched his fingers into a huge fist and threw a punch which I dodged. Thinking I was lucky I failed to see his legs shooting a powerful kick which sent me flying in the air. I landed with a thud, quickly stood up for a re-match. As I advanced towards him I desperately prayed for someone to hold me but there was none. Everyone wanted to be entertained. Shaking with fear I threatened him with insulting words and dared him to make a move, which he did. My plan was to run away. I almost kissed my friend when I felt hands pulling me away and saying, "just let it go" then I pretended to resist while saying "let me go, he wanted some, let him get some" After three days of not talking to my opponent he borrowed a pen and since then we are still friends.

I have many friends because I am not choosy, I treasure all my friends and love them Equally. The funny thing is if told to choose a best friend, I couldn't, for each and everyone of them is best and special in their own way. Actually, you never know who your true friends really are  until you have a problem. Some people, not me have kept friends for certain purposes. They have friends who buy them food, friends who tell them secrets about their lovers, friends who drive them to school, friends who do their exams for them and many more the list is long. Hear yee! hear yee! that is abuse and all should be jailed. That is misuse of a human being for we are not objects but creatures that need warm companionship and truthful  relations.
The essence of a friend-chain is not about keeping our friends close and our enemies closer but bonding with them. Sure you can have a million friends on Facebook but how many of them do you personally know? Less than 50 for sure. Chains are strong they never break, each chain bit is attached to an identical bit thus they strongly hold each other. As we cross to a new year let us not make resolutions, let us just do whatever constructive thought that falls into our minds. Resolutions are like promises and promises are sometimes hard to keep.

Friendship, its definitions rotate around sharing and love. Well, what if that is not the case? What if we only have each other as friends just so to merge with with the culture? What if our intentions contrast? Well those are the questions that should linger in the minds of y'all. Friendship is what we make it to be, what we think of each other, the similarities and differences we share and most importantly the time we give to each other. Time talking/ chatting proves if you really are friends, the lesser the time the lesser the friendship. Happy New Year to All my Fans.