RelatioN_Advicory

DR. LOVE/ CUPID  are tags given to personnel who talk and share their opinions about love and relationships. Well you can call me either for today am sharing my piece of mind.

Dilemma hits, not really, an earthquake or maybe a lightening bolt when you want to love or maybe not to, you want to have fun with someone but you don't want attachment, commitment or entanglement with them. You want to be loved yet you don't want to love, you pretend you're heartless yet most of the things you do are hurtful.On the outside you are smiling when you are burning with grief on the inside. You want something ephemeral, something that won't last but it is hard to find. So you end up alone for a very long time for you are undecided on what to do. What you really are is afraid! Afraid of falling in love, afraid of being hurt, afraid of your love losing meaning with time. But what can you do? Stay single all your life? Not an option, trial and error is the best option. 

Falling in love or finding the right partner is like gambling, you just take a huge risk and put all your money on the table and wait for results. A win means you could give it a try and see where it goes but a loose doesn't necessarily mean give up, its like a bump on the road, a loss actually makes you to take higher risks, for you have hope, hope for a victory.

Do you wake up one morning and say, today I declare war on my fears, I am going to stuff

up my gut with courage and ambition way up that I got no space for food? So that I get what I want,Love. Then evening comes you've done nothing, fear be dancing like 'who's laughing now'. Then you wave a white flag and say, there is always next time? Well there isn't, ceasing the moment and not squandering it, is all there is. On the bright side one mistake is a lesson learnt the hard way. When you feel like that thing you really want hold of, you want grab and take but you cannot have because of how little you think of yourself be like Beowulf and detach your arm from your shoulder but not too much just enough to enable you grab what is yours.

Men are dogs as recorded in the girl dictionary, but if so it means women will always be bitches hence boys will be sons of bitches. I have plea for an amendment of the girl dictionary to have a tag for hunk men-hot dogs. The world is round so you won't know what hit you when a comment you made comes back around like a boomerang.

Now let me stick my finger in the wound.. Relationships, some may just be burdens rather than being full of bliss as they are supposed to be. To bring my point at home I will have to go back just a few years before many of us were born.  Love and relationships were sacred and were mandatory, some or even most of the times love wasn't a factor to be considered but relationships were amust, love would be found in the long run. Compare this to what is currently happening. What we ought to believe as civilization is killing our culture but at the same time we can look on the bright side where happy families exist with love. In stone-age marriages there was no making silly vows like "till death do us part" for it was a cliché. Irony is in this century we even sign papers but "death doesn't do us part" just never works since partners keep making silly mistakes like adultery and the next thing you hear is "I want a divorce".

Relation_advisory extends its reach to kids who think they are mature enough to be committed to other people. When in a relations, one should look at what he/ she is gaining from it, and by gaining am not talking of, sex, free food or any other materialistic product. Am talking about new experiences, spiritual and educational growth. Now that is a good relationship. In relationships fear of expression of feelings shouldn't exist, one should be free to tell their partners issues however personal, issues shouldn't be secluded only to be told to best friends. The freedom of expression experienced with best friends should be channeled to your partner however hard it may be. Reliability. One should be able to sooth their partner to ensure trust and trust makes a relationship conversational.

Dependability. Quite a painful factor. Partners should make each other feel at peace in their niches, comfortanle on each others sorrounding so as to be able to depend on each other. When one has a problem, the other should rise to help. Then there is too much dependability which tags you needy. That is not good for relationships for one partner would feel they are being used. 

The main factor of relationships is love. Love which is infact a fading feeling. It should be both ways, one of the partner shouldn't feel like they are the one pushing the relationship to work, exhaustion is bound to hit them and they most probably will be in search for someone who make them feel loved. Texting and making calls are some of the things that ensure the bonds stay strong. People get tired when they are always the first to call or text, try to set updates but you are always postponing or when they text and when they ask about your day your answer is always "good" not bothering to expound on it to keep the chat going. You will cry when that person you take for granted leaves. And a curse will fell upon you so that it becomes hard to find another with a close to equal character.